20 May 2010

17 May 2010

Much To Think About

Over the past couple months I have been thinking about my current romantic relationship, how it affects me, and how it affects my other relationships. While I have no answers to anything, I do know that changes have to be made and that the person I'm seeing is going to have to make some compromises.

For the past year or so, I have sacrificed my non-romantic personal life in order to help fascilitate the growth of my romantic personal life because the person I'm seeing is against everything that I did in my non-romantic personal life prior to our seeing each other.

Now I know that's a bit dramatic. It's also a bit too broad and a bit unfair to the person I'm seeing because not everything I used to do in my non-romantic personal life is off-limits now. It's just that I feel that I can't do any of those things without the company of the person I'm seeing. Perhaps that's an unfair assessment, but it's the way I'm made to feel about it all.

In my humble and honest opinion, it's not healthy to spend every free moment with the person with whom you are romantically engaged. People need things outside of each other ... friends, activities, etc. I need things outside of my romantic relationship. Otherwise, I begin to feel stiffled and resentful. And I really don't want to feel that way.

So what is it that I'm saying? I don't know. I'm still trying to think this thing through.